Guide to Safe Sex for Lesbians

So you've entered a chat for lesbians, met up with someone, and shared a connection you want to take to the next level. Now what?

Unfortunately, sex education is painfully heteronormative, leaving queer women to figure things out independently. If your knowledge of safe sex for lesbians is severely lacking, we have you covered! Here are some essential things to know to practice safe sex.

STIs are Still a Concern

One huge misconception is that a penis needs to be a part of the equation to spread sexually transmitted infections. We hate to burst your bubble, but that couldn't be further from the truth!

Many STIs can path through skin-to-skin contact. Contact with bodily fluids on hands and fingers, sharing sex toys, and oral sex can lead to STI spread, too. You might not have to worry about pregnancy, but you need to be wary of Chlamydia, syphilis, HPV, genital herpes, gonorrhea, and more.

Staying Protected

There are many ways to protect yourself from STIs. You can use dental dams or craft a makeshift barrier using a traditional condom. For hand play, try using latex gloves.

Here's a tip to keep in mind, ditch the flavored lubes. Those products can irritate the vulva and cause other issues.

In addition to physical protection, it's a good idea to get tested regularly. Physicians don't always offer throat swabs for STIs, but you can request them. Traditional smear tests are crucial, too, despite the misconception that lesbians don't need them.

Best practices say that you should get tested between monogamous partners or at least once annually. You can even go in every six months to be on the safe side!

Keep the Lines of Communication Open

The most important tip we can give is to communicate with your partner. Lesbians are susceptible to STIs just like heterosexuals. No form of sexual contact is without risks, so you need to discuss those matters to decide what forms of protection you need.

If you need to learn more about sexual health for queer women, check out a chat for lesbians and communicate with others going through the same experiences.

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Am I Demisexual?

A lot of people are confused about the meaning of “demisexual.” Demisexuality refers to having a sexual attraction to a person who shares a strong connection or emotional bond. This is in contrast to most people who can have a sexual attraction to any attractive person they see in public, on TV or elsewhere.

Demisexual Meaning

A demisexual individual may have sex with their partner or they may not. If they choose to engage in sexual activity, the desire is often weaker than most individuals. Sexual desire may never happen, either, but a strong connection is necessary in order to consider any form of sexual activity. Even if a demisexual person has sexual desire, they may not act on it.

Demisexuality and Relationships

A demisexual person doesn’t have to be romantically involved with someone in order to have a close bond with them. This close relationship could be a close friend. For some, a bond can happen rather quickly, while others take years to experience this close type of relationship. You might stay with someone for a short time and develop feelings for them. At times, it’s an instant connection. However, it can take getting to know someone for a while before you feel any sexual attraction for them.

Similarities Between Demisexual People and Others

There are some similarities between demisexual individuals and others. For instance, a demisexual person may seem similar to an asexual person. Asexual people generally do not want to have sex. However, there are some who will engage in sex (albeit rarely). Individuals who are grey-asexuals experience sexual attraction less frequently, can have a low sex drive and be attracted to others because of specific reasons. Sapiosexuals are sexually attracted to the mind or intelligence of another. This is not based on physical attraction. Pansexuals are attracted to a number of people, regardless of sexual identity, orientation or gender. They may prefer males over females, but they are generally attracted to both in varying amounts.

More Information on Demisexuals

If you’d like more information on the meaning of demisexual, you can find support and more information on demisexuality.

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